A big cause of our sadness is our insistence to squeeze happiness from the same sources…!
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The other day, I was not feeling good, for no good reasons! I know you can understand, because I guess, we all feel that way once in a while…
So, I went to a tea-stall to have what they call a ‘cut chai’. And just as that man at the tea-stall handed over to me that ‘disposal’ cup (I know it is ‘disposable’ 🙂 ), an old melody started playing on the radio. And instantly, both of us looked at each other and we simultaneously uttered ‘aha’!
I can’t tell you what a joy followed next. For next five minutes, both of us were bonding over that Rafi solo…tapping the wood at precisely the same beat…moving our heads in communion…and saying ‘oho’ and ‘aha’ at the same word…
Well! As I walked back from there, I couldn’t help but wonder how concentric are the notions of ‘our own’ and ‘others’…I guess, we are stupid, making boundaries of kith and kin, overburdening few chosen people with unrealistic expectations of keeping us happy, and then suffering in the hands of our own stale repetitive complaints against them.
Whereas, there are numerous people out there, outside that so-called ‘our circle’, waiting to share those few priceless moments of happiness that we cannot get in spite of creating all the ‘occasions’ and the ‘apparatus’.
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…if only we care to see beyond the cocoon we have started proudly living in.
PS: If you are thinking that next time I would again go to the same stall, then, now you know what I meant by creating a ‘cocoon’ 🙂
About Sandeep Atre
Dr. Sandeep Atre:
• Counseling Psychologist and an internationally recognized ‘Emotional & Social Intelligence’ Expert, with experience of more than two decades in helping people ‘sort out’ and ‘excel in’ intrapersonal and interpersonal matters. He holds a PhD in Management and a Master’s degree in Psychology (www.dratrecounsels.com).
• Founder of Socialigence – a venture specializing in development of ‘Social & Emotional Intelligence’ and its offshoot interpersonal skills through workshops and an award-winning online course rooted in neuroscience and psychology (www.socialigence.net).
• Author of two books related to his domain, namely - “Understanding Emotions Logically” and “Observing Nonverbal Behavior”; and third book on various aspects of life, named “Two Paras of Everyday Wisdom”. Moreover, the collection of his Nazms and Ghazals is published as a book titled “Baat Jazbaat Ki”.
• Corporate Trainer, with experience of close to two decades. Has conducted 150+ workshops/sessions for 50+ organizations & institutions like CSC, Cummins, Piramal, Ranbaxy, Lupin, Bridgestone, Michelin, Eicher, Maruti, Force, Idea, Airtel, NBHC, SBI, HDFC, L&T, Zydus, Thapar University, Banasthali, Narsee Monjee, Symbiosis, IIFM Bhopal, Azim Premji University, Nirma, Welingkar & IBS Hyderabad.
• Co-Founder and Director of CH EdgeMakers – a leading ‘Coaching and Training’ organization of central India for more than 24 years. He has trained close to 100 thousand students for ‘Soft Skills’ & ‘Entrance & Recruitment Preparation’ (www.ch-india.com).
• ‘Management Speaker and Orator’. Has featured at platforms like TEDx, IIM, IIT, NIT, CII, YI, CII-IWN, TCS, IMA, ICAI, ECA, ISHRAE, NEN, Sahodaya, Aditya Birla Education Academy, Round Table, LinkedIn Local, Rotary International, MP State’s Teachers’ Training, Academic Staff College DAVV, Police University Rajasthan, Police Training Academy Indore & more than 100 institutions.
• Member of noted associations and boards. Has been an ‘Executive Committee’ member of Indore Management Association. Associate Editor of IMA publications. Governing Council Member of Banasthali University’s SBBJ Centre for Research in MSME & Promotion of Entrepreneurship in Women. Executive Member of IMS, DAVV Alumni Association. Member of Rotary International’s ‘Group Study Exchange’ team to Minnesota, USA. ESI Coach with FWSA Australia.
Note: For glimpses of work, watch YouTube Channel ‘Dr. Sandeep Atre at Socialigence’.
