Strange are ways of the mind – it chases what denies it…and denies what chases it
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She looked breathtakingly beautiful…too desirable for any heterosexual man in the hall to be able to avert a gaze. My being no exception!
And I could also see that he also could not get his eyes off her. I said to him “She looks drop-dead gorgeous. Isn’t it? Well! You should be glad that you were once together!”
…a ripple of sadness crossed his face.
I reacted “Well! Why sad now? After all, it was your decision to end it. You only felt that she was ‘good to look at, but hard to live with’”.
…he looked at me clueless.
I said “So, what are you sad about? Is it because you don’t have her anymore or more so because she also doesn’t want you anymore?”
…he knew I had read his mind.
He smiled a half-smile and said “You know what! I guess, it felt better to live with a thought that ‘it was my choice to not to be with her’.”
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After a pause of a few seconds, he playfully hit my arm with a fist, smiled, and said “Damn it! Why do they look so good after the break-up?”
I chuckled and said “…Ya! And even better when they become someone else’s. ”. And we both laughed like only two boys can…
Jokes apart…
“Our biggest problem is that, even in relationships, …we like to have the last laugh.”
About Sandeep Atre
Dr. Sandeep Atre:
• Counseling Psychologist and an internationally recognized ‘Emotional & Social Intelligence’ Expert, with experience of more than two decades in helping people ‘sort out’ and ‘excel in’ intrapersonal and interpersonal matters. He holds a PhD in Management and a Master’s degree in Psychology (www.dratrecounsels.com).
• Founder of Socialigence – a venture specializing in development of ‘Social & Emotional Intelligence’ and its offshoot interpersonal skills through workshops and an award-winning online course rooted in neuroscience and psychology (www.socialigence.net).
• Author of two books related to his domain, namely - “Understanding Emotions Logically” and “Observing Nonverbal Behavior”; and third book on various aspects of life, named “Two Paras of Everyday Wisdom”. Moreover, the collection of his Nazms and Ghazals is published as a book titled “Baat Jazbaat Ki”.
• Corporate Trainer, with experience of close to two decades. Has conducted 150+ workshops/sessions for 50+ organizations & institutions like CSC, Cummins, Piramal, Ranbaxy, Lupin, Bridgestone, Michelin, Eicher, Maruti, Force, Idea, Airtel, NBHC, SBI, HDFC, L&T, Zydus, Thapar University, Banasthali, Narsee Monjee, Symbiosis, IIFM Bhopal, Azim Premji University, Nirma, Welingkar & IBS Hyderabad.
• Co-Founder and Director of CH EdgeMakers – a leading ‘Coaching and Training’ organization of central India for more than 24 years. He has trained close to 100 thousand students for ‘Soft Skills’ & ‘Entrance & Recruitment Preparation’ (www.ch-india.com).
• ‘Management Speaker and Orator’. Has featured at platforms like TEDx, IIM, IIT, NIT, CII, YI, CII-IWN, TCS, IMA, ICAI, ECA, ISHRAE, NEN, Sahodaya, Aditya Birla Education Academy, Round Table, LinkedIn Local, Rotary International, MP State’s Teachers’ Training, Academic Staff College DAVV, Police University Rajasthan, Police Training Academy Indore & more than 100 institutions.
• Member of noted associations and boards. Has been an ‘Executive Committee’ member of Indore Management Association. Associate Editor of IMA publications. Governing Council Member of Banasthali University’s SBBJ Centre for Research in MSME & Promotion of Entrepreneurship in Women. Executive Member of IMS, DAVV Alumni Association. Member of Rotary International’s ‘Group Study Exchange’ team to Minnesota, USA. ESI Coach with FWSA Australia.
Note: For glimpses of work, watch YouTube Channel ‘Dr. Sandeep Atre at Socialigence’.
