Sometimes, break-ups are the ultimate ‘Litmus test’ for a lot of things…
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As she looked at the pictures of her ‘Ex’, I could see a ripple of sadness crossing her face. I rudely asked “You don’t seem to be very happy finding him happy and successful after all these years”!
She fidgeted nervously and tried to shake her head in denial, but having known me for years, she then sheepishly smiled and said “I am not unhappy, but yes, when we parted, it did seem that it would impact him irrevocably. But I am partly amazed and partly awkward to see him this way. I guess he did get over it well!”
I smiled and said to her “Well! I understand how you feel. It is natural. But you know, you should be happy that the guy who had come in your life had ‘substance’, and wasn’t just a flippant romantic who didn’t have an identity beyond a relationship he was in. You should be proud of the fact that you had shared a precious part of your life and your self with a worthy and gutsy guy who held his own in spite of what happened”.
I continued… “So, you should be happy, as it proves that your decision to choose him as your beloved was right”.
Well! Her facial expression started changing for better. And precisely then, her cousin witnessing this discussion chirped “And what if the guy had sunk after the parting?”
I exclaimed “Then you should be happy, as it proves that your decision to reject him as your life-partner was right!”
And we all laughed instantly…
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Jokes apart… a broken relationship only tests the quality of people involved in it 🙂
About Sandeep Atre
Dr. Sandeep Atre:
• Counseling Psychologist and an internationally recognized ‘Emotional & Social Intelligence’ Expert, with experience of more than two decades in helping people ‘sort out’ and ‘excel in’ intrapersonal and interpersonal matters. He holds a PhD in Management and a Master’s degree in Psychology (www.dratrecounsels.com).
• Founder of Socialigence – a venture specializing in development of ‘Social & Emotional Intelligence’ and its offshoot interpersonal skills through workshops and an award-winning online course rooted in neuroscience and psychology (www.socialigence.net).
• Author of two books related to his domain, namely - “Understanding Emotions Logically” and “Observing Nonverbal Behavior”; and third book on various aspects of life, named “Two Paras of Everyday Wisdom”. Moreover, the collection of his Nazms and Ghazals is published as a book titled “Baat Jazbaat Ki”.
• Corporate Trainer, with experience of close to two decades. Has conducted 150+ workshops/sessions for 50+ organizations & institutions like CSC, Cummins, Piramal, Ranbaxy, Lupin, Bridgestone, Michelin, Eicher, Maruti, Force, Idea, Airtel, NBHC, SBI, HDFC, L&T, Zydus, Thapar University, Banasthali, Narsee Monjee, Symbiosis, IIFM Bhopal, Azim Premji University, Nirma, Welingkar & IBS Hyderabad.
• Co-Founder and Director of CH EdgeMakers – a leading ‘Coaching and Training’ organization of central India for more than 24 years. He has trained close to 100 thousand students for ‘Soft Skills’ & ‘Entrance & Recruitment Preparation’ (www.ch-india.com).
• ‘Management Speaker and Orator’. Has featured at platforms like TEDx, IIM, IIT, NIT, CII, YI, CII-IWN, TCS, IMA, ICAI, ECA, ISHRAE, NEN, Sahodaya, Aditya Birla Education Academy, Round Table, LinkedIn Local, Rotary International, MP State’s Teachers’ Training, Academic Staff College DAVV, Police University Rajasthan, Police Training Academy Indore & more than 100 institutions.
• Member of noted associations and boards. Has been an ‘Executive Committee’ member of Indore Management Association. Associate Editor of IMA publications. Governing Council Member of Banasthali University’s SBBJ Centre for Research in MSME & Promotion of Entrepreneurship in Women. Executive Member of IMS, DAVV Alumni Association. Member of Rotary International’s ‘Group Study Exchange’ team to Minnesota, USA. ESI Coach with FWSA Australia.
Note: For glimpses of work, watch YouTube Channel ‘Dr. Sandeep Atre at Socialigence’.
