“Your most profound answers are born out of most fundamental questions…”
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Probably, when you care more…you get angry fast! At least that’s how I try to justify my being ‘easily angry’ in the early phase of my life – a product of my extraordinary sensitivity, tendency to get attached quickly and a bent to expect a lot!
As time passed and I became too old to be loved unconditionally, I realized that now being accepted depends less on ‘who I am’ and more on ‘how I am towards people’. As a result, I saved my anger to be surfaced only in front of the unfortunate few who I was sure would not leave me even if they dislike me sometimes.
But the other day…something happened.
The other day when someone used piercing words to me unreasonably…after a long time, I felt a sudden upsurge inside – raising heartbeats, tightening jaw, sweating fists, and an intense desire to react vehemently! Yet what followed it was far more significant…
I don’t know how; but in the midst of all that chaos, a question emerged from inside “Why am I getting angry?” followed by “And why is she being so mean?”! And in a flash it all occurred to me in all its complexities. I could see where that person was coming from – how her own circumstances beget her irritability…and why her behavior had more to do with that backdrop and…less with me.
Well! I don’t expect myself to be this sane or saintly always; but in such moments when you surprise your petty self… you earn a chunk of that invaluable self-esteem.
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Once an ‘Angry Young Man’; in those moments as I witnessed my anger coming down, I guess I either became less of young or ……more of a Man!
About Sandeep Atre
Dr. Sandeep Atre:
• Counseling Psychologist and an internationally recognized ‘Emotional & Social Intelligence’ Expert, with experience of more than two decades in helping people ‘sort out’ and ‘excel in’ intrapersonal and interpersonal matters. He holds a PhD in Management and a Master’s degree in Psychology (www.dratrecounsels.com).
• Founder of Socialigence – a venture specializing in development of ‘Social & Emotional Intelligence’ and its offshoot interpersonal skills through workshops and an award-winning online course rooted in neuroscience and psychology (www.socialigence.net).
• Author of two books related to his domain, namely - “Understanding Emotions Logically” and “Observing Nonverbal Behavior”; and third book on various aspects of life, named “Two Paras of Everyday Wisdom”. Moreover, the collection of his Nazms and Ghazals is published as a book titled “Baat Jazbaat Ki”.
• Corporate Trainer, with experience of close to two decades. Has conducted 150+ workshops/sessions for 50+ organizations & institutions like CSC, Cummins, Piramal, Ranbaxy, Lupin, Bridgestone, Michelin, Eicher, Maruti, Force, Idea, Airtel, NBHC, SBI, HDFC, L&T, Zydus, Thapar University, Banasthali, Narsee Monjee, Symbiosis, IIFM Bhopal, Azim Premji University, Nirma, Welingkar & IBS Hyderabad.
• Co-Founder and Director of CH EdgeMakers – a leading ‘Coaching and Training’ organization of central India for more than 24 years. He has trained close to 100 thousand students for ‘Soft Skills’ & ‘Entrance & Recruitment Preparation’ (www.ch-india.com).
• ‘Management Speaker and Orator’. Has featured at platforms like TEDx, IIM, IIT, NIT, CII, YI, CII-IWN, TCS, IMA, ICAI, ECA, ISHRAE, NEN, Sahodaya, Aditya Birla Education Academy, Round Table, LinkedIn Local, Rotary International, MP State’s Teachers’ Training, Academic Staff College DAVV, Police University Rajasthan, Police Training Academy Indore & more than 100 institutions.
• Member of noted associations and boards. Has been an ‘Executive Committee’ member of Indore Management Association. Associate Editor of IMA publications. Governing Council Member of Banasthali University’s SBBJ Centre for Research in MSME & Promotion of Entrepreneurship in Women. Executive Member of IMS, DAVV Alumni Association. Member of Rotary International’s ‘Group Study Exchange’ team to Minnesota, USA. ESI Coach with FWSA Australia.
Note: For glimpses of work, watch YouTube Channel ‘Dr. Sandeep Atre at Socialigence’.
