“I liked this boy! He is blunt but honest…raw but real!” was my feedback as I left the interview room.
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Over the years, I have seen so many people who care genuinely, get things done and push for better; yet are often interpreted to be bad just because…they lose balance! Then there are people who just get along, pass by and hang around; and are still interpreted as good because…they don’t lose it!
World of humans operates at a superficial level. We have a clear preference for behavior over attitude. That’s why a ‘nice word’ passes off as a ‘good deed’! Sadly, in a society where managing perceptions has become more important than intentions and ‘image’ has outplayed ‘substance’, we have made it difficult for genuineness to survive. And then…we complain about the shortage.
You may ask, why not both? Why can’t we have people who are genuine as well as balanced? Well! Ideally, it is the best combo! But the problem is that, with exceptions of some really evolved beings, “Genuine people can stay balanced only when they are slightly detached” (what Krishn says to Arjun in Geeta)! So, it is about paying the price – either ‘attachment’ or ‘balance’!
Well! I normally let people lose balance…not attachment! You have to make a tradeoff!!
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Scratch the surface! Or you may end up counting on pebbles…and losing out on gems!
PS: While allowing people to lose balance, remember ‘Consideration is only for worthy 🙂 ‘
About Sandeep Atre
Dr. Sandeep Atre:
• Counseling Psychologist and an internationally recognized ‘Emotional & Social Intelligence’ Expert, with experience of more than two decades in helping people ‘sort out’ and ‘excel in’ intrapersonal and interpersonal matters. He holds a PhD in Management and a Master’s degree in Psychology (www.dratrecounsels.com).
• Founder of Socialigence – a venture specializing in development of ‘Social & Emotional Intelligence’ and its offshoot interpersonal skills through workshops and an award-winning online course rooted in neuroscience and psychology (www.socialigence.net).
• Author of two books related to his domain, namely - “Understanding Emotions Logically” and “Observing Nonverbal Behavior”; and third book on various aspects of life, named “Two Paras of Everyday Wisdom”. Moreover, the collection of his Nazms and Ghazals is published as a book titled “Baat Jazbaat Ki”.
• Corporate Trainer, with experience of close to two decades. Has conducted 150+ workshops/sessions for 50+ organizations & institutions like CSC, Cummins, Piramal, Ranbaxy, Lupin, Bridgestone, Michelin, Eicher, Maruti, Force, Idea, Airtel, NBHC, SBI, HDFC, L&T, Zydus, Thapar University, Banasthali, Narsee Monjee, Symbiosis, IIFM Bhopal, Azim Premji University, Nirma, Welingkar & IBS Hyderabad.
• Co-Founder and Director of CH EdgeMakers – a leading ‘Coaching and Training’ organization of central India for more than 24 years. He has trained close to 100 thousand students for ‘Soft Skills’ & ‘Entrance & Recruitment Preparation’ (www.ch-india.com).
• ‘Management Speaker and Orator’. Has featured at platforms like TEDx, IIM, IIT, NIT, CII, YI, CII-IWN, TCS, IMA, ICAI, ECA, ISHRAE, NEN, Sahodaya, Aditya Birla Education Academy, Round Table, LinkedIn Local, Rotary International, MP State’s Teachers’ Training, Academic Staff College DAVV, Police University Rajasthan, Police Training Academy Indore & more than 100 institutions.
• Member of noted associations and boards. Has been an ‘Executive Committee’ member of Indore Management Association. Associate Editor of IMA publications. Governing Council Member of Banasthali University’s SBBJ Centre for Research in MSME & Promotion of Entrepreneurship in Women. Executive Member of IMS, DAVV Alumni Association. Member of Rotary International’s ‘Group Study Exchange’ team to Minnesota, USA. ESI Coach with FWSA Australia.
Note: For glimpses of work, watch YouTube Channel ‘Dr. Sandeep Atre at Socialigence’.
