The biggest handicap in life is… ‘seeking to be liked’!
…and when it comes to profession, this is possibly the last nail in the coffin!
I just do not understand why people are compulsively-obsessed to win closeness & approval of every person they come across! As if, they are mirrors…depending on others to realize their existence…!
There are times when in profession, people get too close to each other! They start sharing their personal problems, discussing private issues… behaving as if they are childhood buddies. Then the cartels get formed, lobbying starts and biases creep in (I have even heard people saying to somebody “I am staying in the company because of you!” Just imagine! Since how long do colleagues know each other? A few months, couple of years! That’s it. And then too, they don’t know each other totally! And what is more permanent: company or colleagues?)…
This kind of togetherness makes you very susceptible because whenever your so-called friend is taken-to-task then he vomits his frustration on you, criticizes the management and the best part is that he will always tell only his part or version of the story! This will prejudice you, disturb you and will take your concentration off your work and towards blaming, cribbing and even thinking about other job-options (on a pseudo-siren)! A lot of people spoil their careers due to this…
…My piece of suggestion has always been “Do not be friends! …Be Friendly!!”
Friendliness makes sure that there is a conducive environment to work in and people have mutual regards for each other. When there is a respectable distance then people learn from each other, they have their breathing space; without suffocating themselves or elbowing the other guy!
So! Do share emotions… but don’t depend emotionally on your colleagues! Don’t harp on developing relationships…rather Build Associations!
Kuchh ko tasleem taq bhi rakh chhoddo, kya zaroori hai sabhi yaar banein…
About Sandeep Atre
Dr. Sandeep Atre:
• Counseling Psychologist and an internationally recognized ‘Emotional & Social Intelligence’ Expert, with experience of more than two decades in helping people ‘sort out’ and ‘excel in’ intrapersonal and interpersonal matters. He holds a PhD in Management and a Master’s degree in Psychology (www.dratrecounsels.com).
• Founder of Socialigence – a venture specializing in development of ‘Social & Emotional Intelligence’ and its offshoot interpersonal skills through workshops and an award-winning online course rooted in neuroscience and psychology (www.socialigence.net).
• Author of two books related to his domain, namely - “Understanding Emotions Logically” and “Observing Nonverbal Behavior”; and third book on various aspects of life, named “Two Paras of Everyday Wisdom”. Moreover, the collection of his Nazms and Ghazals is published as a book titled “Baat Jazbaat Ki”.
• Corporate Trainer, with experience of close to two decades. Has conducted 150+ workshops/sessions for 50+ organizations & institutions like CSC, Cummins, Piramal, Ranbaxy, Lupin, Bridgestone, Michelin, Eicher, Maruti, Force, Idea, Airtel, NBHC, SBI, HDFC, L&T, Zydus, Thapar University, Banasthali, Narsee Monjee, Symbiosis, IIFM Bhopal, Azim Premji University, Nirma, Welingkar & IBS Hyderabad.
• Co-Founder and Director of CH EdgeMakers – a leading ‘Coaching and Training’ organization of central India for more than 24 years. He has trained close to 100 thousand students for ‘Soft Skills’ & ‘Entrance & Recruitment Preparation’ (www.ch-india.com).
• ‘Management Speaker and Orator’. Has featured at platforms like TEDx, IIM, IIT, NIT, CII, YI, CII-IWN, TCS, IMA, ICAI, ECA, ISHRAE, NEN, Sahodaya, Aditya Birla Education Academy, Round Table, LinkedIn Local, Rotary International, MP State’s Teachers’ Training, Academic Staff College DAVV, Police University Rajasthan, Police Training Academy Indore & more than 100 institutions.
• Member of noted associations and boards. Has been an ‘Executive Committee’ member of Indore Management Association. Associate Editor of IMA publications. Governing Council Member of Banasthali University’s SBBJ Centre for Research in MSME & Promotion of Entrepreneurship in Women. Executive Member of IMS, DAVV Alumni Association. Member of Rotary International’s ‘Group Study Exchange’ team to Minnesota, USA. ESI Coach with FWSA Australia.
Note: For glimpses of work, watch YouTube Channel ‘Dr. Sandeep Atre at Socialigence’.
