Dhan te nan…!

“When things are going rough at your end, everyone else suddenly starts looking happier than he or she actually is.”                 

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Most of the sad people don’t even realize when their sadness gets intermingled with their ego to form a third ‘bitter yet addictive’ emotion. I call this emotion ‘enjoyable victimization’! Yes, there is an exclusive masochistic charm in feeling that ‘The whole world is against you’/ ‘It’s God’s conspiracy to make you suffer’/ ‘You are the chosen one by destiny to always hand its most raw deal’.

And what adds a special flavor to it is the tendency to overestimate or exaggerate others’ ‘all-well’ life. Suddenly all other people start looking ‘in the pink of their health’, ‘at the top of their game’ or ‘in the honeymoon phase’ (fb only worsens what is already pretty bad 🙂 ). Add a few despondent sad-songs or ghazals to it and it becomes the perfect recipe for a phase when feeling bad actually feels good.

And then the ‘Suffering Hero’ starts the ‘Act’ – staring into space with a solitary-diner look, sighing before every second sentence, sipping even water as if it is a ‘thing with a hangover’ and walking along streets with a ‘look’ as if a background-score is playing. Well! Just the right screenplay to pump one’s insatiable desire to ‘assume disproportionate importance’!

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Wake up douchebag! No one is watching this melodrama. Get back to work.

And ya…one more thing! FYI…everyone out there is grappling with a problem or two – some even bigger than you can ever imagine for the script of your self-funded & self-starring docudrama.

About Sandeep Atre

Dr. Sandeep Atre: • Counseling Psychologist and an internationally recognized ‘Emotional & Social Intelligence’ Expert, with experience of more than two decades in helping people ‘sort out’ and ‘excel in’ intrapersonal and interpersonal matters. He holds a PhD in Management and a Master’s degree in Psychology (www.dratrecounsels.com). • Founder of Socialigence – a venture specializing in development of ‘Social & Emotional Intelligence’ and its offshoot interpersonal skills through workshops and an award-winning online course rooted in neuroscience and psychology (www.socialigence.net). • Author of two books related to his domain, namely - “Understanding Emotions Logically” and “Observing Nonverbal Behavior”; and third book on various aspects of life, named “Two Paras of Everyday Wisdom”. Moreover, the collection of his Nazms and Ghazals is published as a book titled “Baat Jazbaat Ki”. • Corporate Trainer, with experience of close to two decades. Has conducted 150+ workshops/sessions for 50+ organizations & institutions like CSC, Cummins, Piramal, Ranbaxy, Lupin, Bridgestone, Michelin, Eicher, Maruti, Force, Idea, Airtel, NBHC, SBI, HDFC, L&T, Zydus, Thapar University, Banasthali, Narsee Monjee, Symbiosis, IIFM Bhopal, Azim Premji University, Nirma, Welingkar & IBS Hyderabad. • Co-Founder and Director of CH EdgeMakers – a leading ‘Coaching and Training’ organization of central India for more than 24 years. He has trained close to 100 thousand students for ‘Soft Skills’ & ‘Entrance & Recruitment Preparation’ (www.ch-india.com). • ‘Management Speaker and Orator’. Has featured at platforms like TEDx, IIM, IIT, NIT, CII, YI, CII-IWN, TCS, IMA, ICAI, ECA, ISHRAE, NEN, Sahodaya, Aditya Birla Education Academy, Round Table, LinkedIn Local, Rotary International, MP State’s Teachers’ Training, Academic Staff College DAVV, Police University Rajasthan, Police Training Academy Indore & more than 100 institutions. • Member of noted associations and boards. Has been an ‘Executive Committee’ member of Indore Management Association. Associate Editor of IMA publications. Governing Council Member of Banasthali University’s SBBJ Centre for Research in MSME & Promotion of Entrepreneurship in Women. Executive Member of IMS, DAVV Alumni Association. Member of Rotary International’s ‘Group Study Exchange’ team to Minnesota, USA. ESI Coach with FWSA Australia. Note: For glimpses of work, watch YouTube Channel ‘Dr. Sandeep Atre at Socialigence’.
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