(written last night…pretty late)
It was a tough day…! Actually it was meant to be…and I knew it even before it had begun!
On such days, I either just keep working, working & working or reading, reading & reading; because I know that if I would give mind any option to think then it would slip into its lows. Today also, I did the same but I knew that…this time the odds were heavily against!
Today happens to be the death-anniversary of one of my closest friends…
He was one of the best people I have known…and I wonder how almost all such good people meet similar fates; as if goodness is a curse! Possibly, he was too-good-to-be-alive…emotional, empathetic and idealistic.
He was going through a really difficult (and long) phase…We all know how such a phase is…when you come to discover the superficiality of relationships, fragility of friendships, insensitivity of the world and vulnerability of your own will-power. You suddenly come to realize that you are just a resource…meant to be deployed, for optimum utilization!
But strangely, he had just started looking up…And I remember when I asked “How have you suddenly become so fine?” he said “It’s a mask bhai! Because now I don’t find anybody close enough to trust my sorrows with!” Possibly, he was convinced that nobody would stand by his side if he would share his real self, which still had depression, sadness and anger…As if he had simply given up on ‘trust’!
The day reminds me that under the veil of ‘All-is-well’, there are many such sensitive-souls amongst us who are just one bad-day away from destruction…just one wrong-decision away from collapse! Let’s help such people retain their innocent faith that they would not be left alone…
…I am saying this because somewhere I know that he did not die of the battles he was fighting…he died of the feeling that it was ‘He…versus…rest-of-the-world’.
About Sandeep Atre
Dr. Sandeep Atre:
• Counseling Psychologist and an internationally recognized ‘Emotional & Social Intelligence’ Expert, with experience of more than two decades in helping people ‘sort out’ and ‘excel in’ intrapersonal and interpersonal matters. He holds a PhD in Management and a Master’s degree in Psychology (www.dratrecounsels.com).
• Founder of Socialigence – a venture specializing in development of ‘Social & Emotional Intelligence’ and its offshoot interpersonal skills through workshops and an award-winning online course rooted in neuroscience and psychology (www.socialigence.net).
• Author of two books related to his domain, namely - “Understanding Emotions Logically” and “Observing Nonverbal Behavior”; and third book on various aspects of life, named “Two Paras of Everyday Wisdom”. Moreover, the collection of his Nazms and Ghazals is published as a book titled “Baat Jazbaat Ki”.
• Corporate Trainer, with experience of close to two decades. Has conducted 150+ workshops/sessions for 50+ organizations & institutions like CSC, Cummins, Piramal, Ranbaxy, Lupin, Bridgestone, Michelin, Eicher, Maruti, Force, Idea, Airtel, NBHC, SBI, HDFC, L&T, Zydus, Thapar University, Banasthali, Narsee Monjee, Symbiosis, IIFM Bhopal, Azim Premji University, Nirma, Welingkar & IBS Hyderabad.
• Co-Founder and Director of CH EdgeMakers – a leading ‘Coaching and Training’ organization of central India for more than 24 years. He has trained close to 100 thousand students for ‘Soft Skills’ & ‘Entrance & Recruitment Preparation’ (www.ch-india.com).
• ‘Management Speaker and Orator’. Has featured at platforms like TEDx, IIM, IIT, NIT, CII, YI, CII-IWN, TCS, IMA, ICAI, ECA, ISHRAE, NEN, Sahodaya, Aditya Birla Education Academy, Round Table, LinkedIn Local, Rotary International, MP State’s Teachers’ Training, Academic Staff College DAVV, Police University Rajasthan, Police Training Academy Indore & more than 100 institutions.
• Member of noted associations and boards. Has been an ‘Executive Committee’ member of Indore Management Association. Associate Editor of IMA publications. Governing Council Member of Banasthali University’s SBBJ Centre for Research in MSME & Promotion of Entrepreneurship in Women. Executive Member of IMS, DAVV Alumni Association. Member of Rotary International’s ‘Group Study Exchange’ team to Minnesota, USA. ESI Coach with FWSA Australia.
Note: For glimpses of work, watch YouTube Channel ‘Dr. Sandeep Atre at Socialigence’.
