Someone told me the other day…“Meeting you feels very different from meeting others”.
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Despite all my veil of modesty, I will admit that I haven’t heard this for the first time. Yes! I do get this compliment (hopefully one) quite often. So, while I was driving back through a rainy evening, I kept thinking why people find me that way…
Well! We all go through phases when we are treated with life’s ‘no mercy’ policy. People we need, choose to look away…turn in or simply opt out. And then you realize that people are with you for their reasons, not yours. That day, you have a choice – either to be cynical or to be an existentialist.
Years back, I opted for the latter one.
So now, when I meet someone (at whatever regularity), I talk, listen, laugh, despise, get hurt, trust, avoid, opine and do all the normal stuff but I don’t store impressions. So when I meet them next time I only have the necessary factual-information about them in my database to refer to.
Yes! I don’t see them as events, I see them as processes.
Thus, every morning as I open my eyes, I approach the day as if I have a ticket to a show…! And I watch this grand drama of life getting unfolded – layer by layer – admiring the playwright for the nuanced and dynamic characterization in an unpredictable plot.
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And I know this drama would continue endlessly. It’s just that one day I would run out of currency to buy a ticket and thus would give up on the hassle to wake up. 🙂
About Sandeep Atre
Dr. Sandeep Atre:
• Counseling Psychologist and an internationally recognized ‘Emotional & Social Intelligence’ Expert, with experience of more than two decades in helping people ‘sort out’ and ‘excel in’ intrapersonal and interpersonal matters. He holds a PhD in Management and a Master’s degree in Psychology (www.dratrecounsels.com).
• Founder of Socialigence – a venture specializing in development of ‘Social & Emotional Intelligence’ and its offshoot interpersonal skills through workshops and an award-winning online course rooted in neuroscience and psychology (www.socialigence.net).
• Author of two books related to his domain, namely - “Understanding Emotions Logically” and “Observing Nonverbal Behavior”; and third book on various aspects of life, named “Two Paras of Everyday Wisdom”. Moreover, the collection of his Nazms and Ghazals is published as a book titled “Baat Jazbaat Ki”.
• Corporate Trainer, with experience of close to two decades. Has conducted 150+ workshops/sessions for 50+ organizations & institutions like CSC, Cummins, Piramal, Ranbaxy, Lupin, Bridgestone, Michelin, Eicher, Maruti, Force, Idea, Airtel, NBHC, SBI, HDFC, L&T, Zydus, Thapar University, Banasthali, Narsee Monjee, Symbiosis, IIFM Bhopal, Azim Premji University, Nirma, Welingkar & IBS Hyderabad.
• Co-Founder and Director of CH EdgeMakers – a leading ‘Coaching and Training’ organization of central India for more than 24 years. He has trained close to 100 thousand students for ‘Soft Skills’ & ‘Entrance & Recruitment Preparation’ (www.ch-india.com).
• ‘Management Speaker and Orator’. Has featured at platforms like TEDx, IIM, IIT, NIT, CII, YI, CII-IWN, TCS, IMA, ICAI, ECA, ISHRAE, NEN, Sahodaya, Aditya Birla Education Academy, Round Table, LinkedIn Local, Rotary International, MP State’s Teachers’ Training, Academic Staff College DAVV, Police University Rajasthan, Police Training Academy Indore & more than 100 institutions.
• Member of noted associations and boards. Has been an ‘Executive Committee’ member of Indore Management Association. Associate Editor of IMA publications. Governing Council Member of Banasthali University’s SBBJ Centre for Research in MSME & Promotion of Entrepreneurship in Women. Executive Member of IMS, DAVV Alumni Association. Member of Rotary International’s ‘Group Study Exchange’ team to Minnesota, USA. ESI Coach with FWSA Australia.
Note: For glimpses of work, watch YouTube Channel ‘Dr. Sandeep Atre at Socialigence’.
